Being thankful shouldn’t be only celebrated every fourth Thursday of November, enjoying turkey and pumpkin pie around the family table. So many things have happened to me this 2015 and I’m thankful for all of them, but there were five unforgettable ones.
1. Reaching 1 year with CJ
It has been more than a year since we first became official, and I’m glad that we made it this far despite all the previous disagreements and bickering we had. Of course, there were times that we almost gave up on each other—but as they say, talking things over solves a lot of problems. We ironed all our problems out, and celebrated without fuss.
The thing is, both parties should emerge stronger from such experiences…and we did. Now that we work in different offices and we only get to see each other on the occasional weekend, every moment we spend together becomes as valuable as gold. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, yes? But true love doesn’t have any endings. My parents work in different offices, but it didn’t end their love story—it continues up until today.
2. Finding closure with Ateneo
Three years after graduating, my batchmates have succeeded and I’m still stuck in an office job. It was my mantra for some time, until I met a college batchmate months ago. Being a freelancer, he mentioned how difficult it was to make ends meet and follow up paying income taxes and other dues himself. He told me he would work in an office if given the chance. Ah, I am ranting about my dull office job—but here is someone who wishes to be in my shoes!
Let me use a metaphor. Most who have been in the sea will want to step on dry land, but those on solid ground will desire the waves of the ocean. I may be admiring other people for how they live their lives, but I never expected one person to admire the way I live my own life. Thus, I had nothing to fear; only a sense of gratitude for living the way I want to live and pursuing my own happiness!
3. Discovering the manosphere
Discovering the manosphere has made a noticeable difference in me. Here’s a random fact: I used to have a left-leaning political stance in college. Maturity kicked in and I slowly veered right by the time I graduated and joined the workforce. I was initially attracted to the movement because of their vehement opposition to Tumblr’s feminism and social justice warriors, but I found out a lot more.
I don’t exactly qualify as an “alpha male”, but I’m doing some concrete steps to reach that goal; better to have taken some than none at all. Contrary to popular belief, the manosphere isn’t all about picking up girls. It’s about being the best version of yourself in the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects. I’m aware that most millennials will look at me with disdain for admiring traditional manosphere ideas; well, so be it. Improving one’s self requires a certain degree of effort, but the end result will always be worth it.
4. Reaching two years of blogging
I’m not lying when I tell you that running this blog—and for two years at that—is one of the achievements I’m proud of for this year. I haven’t sold out and commercialized The Monching’s Guide, and I have no plans to do so. This is essentially considered a death sentence, given that most bloggers believe in hooking up with ad agencies or PR companies to get far. I chose the hard mode. But you know, there are times when I see myself in the same predicament as WWE superstar Zack Ryder. I ask myself: when will I get my main event push, or will I even have one?
However, just like what I mentioned previously – a certain degree of effort is required to succeed. I started off with crickets as my initial audience, and only foreigners who knew nothing about what I write about kept on liking my posts. Never mind them! You have haters or naysayers? Never mind them too! Let me ask you two questions. Do your detractors issue your paycheck? Are they in control of your life decisions? If you answered no, well and good. If you really love to write—do it!
5. Surviving a recent accident
For the first time in 25 years, I got into an accident with two cars while driving home three weeks ago. I took responsibility for what happened as I was behind the wheel; good thing that all three parties were calm and collected. We arrived at a cash settlement with one party, while the other one no longer pursued a claim. My vehicle, on the other hand, didn’t have much damage on the body…but its radiator got pushed back, causing some engine problems.
I may not look like it, but the accident left me a bit shaken like my vehicle. I even had nightmares about the collision for two days in a row. Fortunately, I’m back to driving—but more careful to keep my distance now. Shit happens, and we can’t say when or where it will. Of course, being shaken is natural after such unfortunate incidents happen – but you can’t be afraid forever. I overcame that fear and, if anything, I’m thankful that I didn’t suffer critical injuries.
Just as you’re thankful for the big things, so should you be thankful for the small things. I guess this caps off year 2015 over here at The Monching’s Guide; so Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all of you!